Socialising at a wedding: an expert’s top tips and icebreakers

How to keep the conversation flowing

The key to a good conversation is to ask open-ended questions. Avoid questions that can only be answered with a short ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Instead, start your sentences with words like ‘What’, ‘How’ or ‘Tell me‘.

3 golden rules for the socialising pro:

Find common ground: Ask about jobs, interests or past wedding memories to quickly find points of connection.

A popular choice at weddings is the three-piece suit, i.e. a suit with a waistcoat. The advantage of a three-piece suit is that you can take off the jacket – for example, if things get a bit wild on the dance floor – and still look smart. Two-piece suits – consisting of trousers and a jacket – are also common.

Listen more than you speak: A good listener is often the most appreciated conversation partner at a party.

Your body language is your calling card: Open body language, eye contact and a smile make you approachable. Avoid ‘hiding’ behind your mobile.

How to socialise at a wedding dinner

At dinner, you’ll often find yourself sitting next to people you’ve never met before. The etiquette is simple: introduce yourself to the people on either side of you as soon as you’ve sat down at the table.

Tips for table conversation:

• Share stories: Ask the person next to you about their funniest or fondest memory of the bride or groom.
• Comment on the moment: The food, the wine or the beautiful flowers are natural topics of conversation that everyone can join in with.
• The light-hearted question: If there’s a lull in the conversation, try: “If you could choose just one song that’s guaranteed to get you out on the dance floor tonight, which one would it be?”

Mobile phones – the biggest enemy of socialising?

In an age where we’re used to quickly reaching for our phones as soon as we feel unsure, it’s especially important to be mindful of mobile phone etiquette at a wedding. Hiding behind a screen is an effective ‘party killer’.

Here are three tips for mobile-free mingling:

• Keep your phone in your bag or pocket: If you’re holding your phone, you’re unconsciously signalling that you’re busy or waiting for something more important than the conversation you’re having.
• Capture the moment, not just the picture: It’s fun to take photos, but don’t forget to put your camera away after you’ve taken your pictures so you can actually talk to the people around you.
• Be present at the table: During dinner, your phone should be put away completely. If you absolutely must check something important, apologise and step away for a moment.

By daring to look up from your screen, you open yourself up to those spontaneous and memorable conversations that often become the best memories of a wedding.

How to end a conversation gracefully

Getting ‘stuck’ with the same person all evening is a common worry. Ending a conversation is an art that involves being polite but clear:
“It’s been really lovely chatting to you! I’m going to pop over and say hello to some friends on the other side of the room – see you on the dance floor later!”

Remember that the most important thing when mingling at a wedding is to have fun and be yourself – the rest usually falls into place naturally after the first toast.