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The Ultimate Guide: How to Plan a Successful Hen do and Stag do

How do you make the budget add up? Who should you invite? And do you really have to embarrass the bride or groom in public? Bröllopsguiden has put together everything you need to know to create an unforgettable day.

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Have you been given the honourable task of organising a hen do or stag do? Congratulations! It’s a brilliantly fun project, but we know the responsibility can feel overwhelming.

How do you make the budget work? Who should be invited? And do you really have to embarrass the bride or groom in town? Bröllopsguiden has put together everything you need to know to create an unforgettable day.

A happy bride and her friends at a memorable hen do

Finances: One for all, all for one

A hen do or stag do can quickly become an expensive affair, depending on the activities and arrangements. To avoid arguments about money, it’s best to set the parameters early on.

Be transparent: Present a budget early on so that everyone knows what they’re expected to pay.

Split the cost equally: The golden rule is that all participants split the total cost equally. This is the fairest and most widely accepted way to manage the finances.

The bride and groom never pay: Traditionally, neither the bride nor the groom should pay for their own wedding day. Their share of the cost of food, drink and activities is split amongst the rest of the group.

Groups going go-karting or taking part in high-speed activities at a stag do

The guest list: Who should be invited?

Deciding who to invite can sometimes be a sensitive issue. Always start with the couple’s closest circle of friends and family to ensure a safe and enjoyable atmosphere.

Focus on the stars of the show: Remember that the engaged couple are the centre of attention for the evening – invite people who will help them to relax and have fun.

Obvious guests: Their closest group of friends, childhood friends, siblings and cousins they spend time with.

Parents and relatives: Parents and older relatives don’t usually attend, but there are no hard and fast rules. If you’re unsure, have a discreet chat with the couple (without giving too much away) or a partner before sending out the invitations.

Friends enjoying a fun activity at an outdoor hen do

Activities based on the bride and groom’s preferences

The most important piece of advice of all: plan the day around what the bride and groom actually enjoy, not what you yourselves think is the most fun.

Do guests have to dress up?

This is where you need to use your judgement. If the bride or groom hates being the centre of attention in an ’embarrassing’ way – skip the princess dress and the city-wide scavenger hunt. If, on the other hand, they’re a ‘theatre buff’ who loves a bit of fun? Go ahead with fancy dress and games!

Choose the right theme for the evening

For those seeking a quiet night: For a more introverted person, an intimate dinner, an evening in a hot tub at a cosy hotel or a day at a spa could be the perfect plan.

For the party-loving type: If the person loves parties and glitz, it goes without saying that the celebrations should end on a pulsating dance floor. Don’t forget to work out the quantities using Systembolaget’s drinks calculator to avoid running out of drinks.

Pro tip: Ask a mutual friend or someone else who’s organised a hen do or stag do before for help. It makes things easier to have someone to bounce all the details off so that nothing falls by the wayside.

A close-up of the back of a bride in a white dress, holding a bouquet, during a surprise hen party.

Reading tip: What sort of bride are you planning for?

Are you unsure which activity would suit her best? Every bride is unique, and a hen do is at its best when it reflects her personality. Don’t miss our popular guide: Hen do for Different Brides, where we list everything from luxury and glamour to adventure and nostalgia.

Need more visual inspiration for themes? Check out popular hen do mood boards on Pinterest.

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In our supplier directory, you’ll find our range of wedding suppliers

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